Adversity does not discriminate. It does not care where you come from, how much money you have, your age, or your religious belief. You will face adversity at some point in your life. If adversity is inevitable, how do we overcome and rise above?
Our first instinct is to ask the question ‘Why me?’ We sometimes blame others, ourselves, or our circumstances. Fortunately for you, we recently had the opportunity to sit down with Trust Group’s CEO, Adrian Hyde, to learn about his path to entrepreneurship, adversities he has faced and advice on how to conquer them.
When asked how many adversities he has experienced in his life, he responded “Too many to count, but I never gave up.” Having been in the business world since his early 20’s, Adrian has launched several businesses and faced a number of hardships. Some of these include closing businesses down, client changes, financial difficulty and personal challenges.
“Yes, we are constantly getting bombarded by the glitz and glam of ‘success’ on our social media feed of these ‘influencer’ and ‘entrepreneur’ and I use these terms loosely. If you’re in this for the social media ‘likes’ then you’re in it for the wrong reason. To be a true entrepreneur you must be courageous enough to take risks, accept adversity over and over and still have the guts to get up and keep going. It’s a long and bumpy road ahead so get ready to buckle in and enjoy the heck out of it.”
“There are two quotes I keep close to my heart to navigate through any adversity.”
“There is no better than adversity. Every defeat, every heartbreak, every loss, contains its own seed, its own lesson on how to improve your performance the next time.” – Malcolm X
“Tough times don’t last, tough people do.” – Robert Schuller
- The first step to overcome any adversity is acceptance. Simply embrace it. Do not beat yourself up when everything hits the fan. Understand it is not a part of your identity, but merely a moment in time. The longer we spend denying or resisting the hardship life serves us, the longer it will take to prevail. Instead see it as an opportunity to learn, grow and develop a better version of ourselves.
- The second step is to change your response. You do not have complete control on what happens to you, but you do have complete control on how you respond. Resist the urge to react negatively. Instead, be proactive, take ownership and accountability of your situation. Eventually, you will find adversities and hard times are just obstacles you can and will overcome. How to change your response begins in your mind. Remember, positive thoughts will yield positive results. Every positive thought stimulates a chemical chain reaction in your body to carry out the physical actions to turn the tides during tough times.
- The third step is creating a game plan and take action. Crying over spilled milk does not put the milk back in the glass. But take action by grabbing a paper towel, clean the mess and pour yourself another glass. No great success comes without planning and preparation. We simply must figure out the next step, put one foot in front of the other and start moving in the desired direction.
- The last step is to have gratitude and grit. When your world is upside down and it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, is exactly the time to think about everything you are grateful for. Practice by starting and ending your day with three things you are grateful for, big or small. And lastly, Angela Duckworth defines grit as ‘passion and sustained persistence applied toward long-term achievement, with no particular concern for rewards or recognition along the way. It combines resilience, ambition, and self-control in the pursuit of goals that take months, years, or even decades.’ Regardless of what is happening, believe in yourself because when you continue to fight and relentlessly go after your goals, you will achieve them.
Remember, with each trial and tribulation comes sweet rewards. When we conquer adversities, we build character and resilience. We strengthen our will, confidence and ability to overcome any future challenges.